Victim complex: how to get rid of the problem

 Imperceptibly germinate victim complex can subdue your entire life. People who have this complex, prone to always be ready victim unconsciously punishing themselves. That is why they are more likely than others get into difficult situations, they perceive the financial setbacks, with them accidents happen. Once in the train, they discover that their compartment is located next to the toilet, in line at the bank in front of them "hang" the computer in the store comes defective goods, etc.

If you try to consider these events on the other hand, one can always find a reason - a circumstance that creates itself "victim" to her plans were so or otherwise disrupted. The man is late for an important meeting, because at the time did not check whether the tank is full of petrol. On the day of departure on a business trip he appoints a business meeting. By purchasing a train ticket at the box office, did not ask the numbering of seats in the car. It turns out that the failure lie in wait "victim" at every turn. But if the "victim-loser" quietly resigns himself to the circumstances, the second type of "victim" - is actively engaged in the search for the guilty.

The sooner stop the development of the complex, the better. Famous Swiss psychoanalyst Carl Gustav Jung - a great expert on the study of complex thought that is not so important whether a person complexes, more importantly, what he does with them.

The first step in overcoming the complex - it is his awareness. To see the fish, you need to catch it out of the river. You also need to do, and with the complex. The next step - take it as a familiar part of their soul, because all unknown intriguing is much stronger, and with a friend can be negotiated. And finally - you need to convert complex, turning it into a useful life features. For example, in the ability to make fun of himself and his forgetfulness or distraction. Pass this way will help psychologists.

Try to deal with their own set of "victim", using the following rules to be applied in difficult situation:

1. kidding unfortunate victim - not imagine what is not really.

2. Do not be offended and do not blame. Thought: "Well, why is it happened to me again? "Etc. chase away as soon as they come into your head. At this point, better eat candy or pleasure pohrustite apple.

3. Tell yourself: "I am totally ready for this situation." Imagine a situation in a positive form, listing what you have available. And not what you are missing. For example, you have a valid legs, arms, head, his own apartment, husband, intelligent child, family, work, friends, etc.

4. To avoid accidentally start listing what you lack, remind yourself: "No I did not have to."

5. Repeat to yourself, "In a difficult situation for getting help answer Y. This is my responsibility." In case you do not get help or support, it is because you just did not try to organize it, forgetting that the only responsible for providing you with the help of a man - it's you. Others do not have to guess your wishes. Realize this, and then you stop being angry and blaming others.

6. "I have the right to ask for help." People are guided by their own interests, each in its own right. You also have your own interest that you can and should defend. Somehow, it is difficult for many to make. Ask the store to replace the defective goods or return the money, and do not complain about the "rock" of circumstances. Give voice their discontent and calmly state the request, and you will get the right to choose and stop being a victim. And this is - the first step towards liberation from this complex.

7. Remember the cardinal rule: "If no one will help me in a difficult situation, see the first paragraph."