Staying on the sidelines of an active, regular sex life no one wants. We are afraid of this, because I do not want to seem flawed in the first place to ourselves - because once we do not have sex, then something is wrong with us. We do not like it. Or we do not like anybody. Or like, but do not want to. Or want to, but can not. In general, we do not like to stay without sex for different reasons. And we, being not always picky in choosing partners, looking for an excuse myself to live without sex is bad. Is this true?
... Trojan War lasted 10 years. And then how many out there years Odysseus sailed home. And all this time Penelope waiting for him. And keep him faithful. Ie sex she did not have. Survived somehow ...
And this is not an isolated case - how many times men and women, separated by war, prison, exile were separated from each other for many years. But live, no sick or even die from lack of sex life. Why now - just a few decades ago, the idea that abstinence is harmful to the body? And based on what the idea?
Information society rests on advertising. Sell a product or service, not to talk about it hundreds, thousands and even millions of people, it is impossible. But that will cause a person to buy goods which are, by and large, not very much and need? Or that cause a person to make a choice in favor of this product, and not some other? One of the driving forces of advertising and become sex. In its various forms - and open sensuality, designed to shock and to remember, and a veiled hint, nothing to do with sex does not seem to be available, but gives a person (consumer) understand what's it this way and it will lead eventually to the desired goal - sexuality.
It seems that everything around sex and only we, the poor, this goal is not awarded. Alas, this is not true. Quite the contrary - is not so. In just the last 30 years, the percentage of students who have completed compulsory secondary education virgins, increased significantly in the 70s were about half of those, now more than 60%. Although it seems that things are very different - young people from all sides accused of debauchery, but in fact it turns out that every year teens are becoming more modest. Why is this happening?
You'd be surprised, but it is keen adults who accuse children in the absence of moral values and early sexual maturation and are the reason that their chady all staying longer at a tender age. High expectations and fear of the inability to justify - that is what is the reason that today's young people sexual life begins when they are already far beyond ... 17.
See for yourself: that sex seems to be doing everything we know, not only we, but also our children. They see what makes it better to start as early as possible; that it should be done skillfully and efficiently. Around There is plenty of intimate life of myths and if adults can distinguish truth from fiction, children of this are not yet able. So they pulled from the onset of sexual activity - because of the fear of being worse than the actors on TV, because of the fear of being rejected by a more experienced partner (which, in fact, have not even kissed). Whether it earlier, when the word "porn" and say something was a shame, I experienced everything empirically. As incurred desire.
So what really is: whether the absence of harm to the health of sex or not?
Let's look at the most popular assumptions in this account:
"The lack of intimacy leads to gynecological problems. No wonder uterine fibroids and breast are considered "diseases of nuns."
Myth. In fact, everything is not quite as commonly believed. Yes, indeed some problems may occur, but it is not because women do not have a sexual partner. Problems arise if the partner is not, and the woman he needed. In this case, she often thinks about sex, resulting in blood flow to the pelvic organs, and outflow occurs. It turns out the so-called stagnation. That he may have damage to the body. However, masturbation will save you. But sex "health" with someone who you are not cute, or when you just do not want an intimate relationship, but I think that they need you more likely to harm - mechanical act reduces sensitivity, and in the absence of lubricant (artificial or natural) more and damages the tissue.
"The man who does not satisfy their sexual needs, becomes irritable, depressed, it no matter what no energy."
If the boss bitch, then the guy she was not long ago. If the head of the tyrant, it means that something in his bed does not work ... How prevalent in our lives these stereotypes as insulting to hear it in his address.
In fact, it is vulgarly interpreted by Freud's theory - as if all our behavior is driven by sexual impulses, and if they do not find implementation, a person has a neurosis.
In fact, Freud wrote of sublimation - the ability to transfer energy to another one, that is, the sexual energy - in the creative.
People long practice of celibacy, to cope with this task easy, but those who have to face for the first time with abstinence, may indeed be in a difficult situation - for example, a woman who lived a long time a regular sex life, hardly get used to the new rhythm after For example, divorce. In the difficult position and mistresses of married men, because a woman never knows when the next time it will take the sex, and therefore constantly in the physical and psychological readiness. It's exhausting and soul and body.
What should I do in this situation? Masturbate. Looking for a new man who will get you pretty. And do sports - in order to avoid congestion need to move as much as possible - it helps.
"The longer a person does not live a sexual life, the harder it is to achieve full orgasm, the less he gets pleasure from sex."
Alas, this is true. However, only for men - women, the problem is unlikely to be affected. If a man is forced to abstain for a long time, he had problems with erection, it becomes difficult to control yourself. But women are the opposite - a long abstinence and finally start a harmonious relationship with your partner will be happy to and for the spirit and body. A man can not fail to appreciate such a gift.
So, what conclusion can be drawn from the above? Sex, of course, plays an important role in our lives and especially in relations with the opposition of the floor. However, in practice, by his absence while no one died, so if you currently do not have a permanent (or not permanent) partner - do not worry. Believe me - around full of people who for one reason or another refrain, just like you. And the fact that you think that it is only you were not so lucky - do not believe it! XXI century - a century of individualism, and the number of single people every year is growing. Do not join them - in your hands.