Mother and daughter: the problem of understanding

 Restore mutual understanding must-try, and not just for the sake of peace and tranquility in a family of his own conscience. This must be done in the first place for the sake of her daughter - after psychological trauma in children and teens, an impact on adult life, sometimes manifesting itself in a most peculiar way. Besides, girls, growing up and becoming mothers, without noticing, make the same mistakes with respect to their daughters that their mother - in relation to themselves.

Not kroite daughter alone

Whatever the correct and feminine are you any thought, no matter how you relied on your own taste, and neither were confident in their absolute correctness in - give her daughter the opportunity to be like you. Your daughter should not be your copy - if only she did not want to. And by the way, if your daughter often falls and breaks his knees - do not abuse it, and, as an option - is reduced to the optometrist. Perhaps your child's vision problems, and tell you about this girl could and ashamed - because you want her to be the perfect child. Think about it, what is more important - the perfect image of a fictional daughter or her happiness.

Your daughter has the right to own dreams

Music school, dance, gymnastics - Chao liked you, and you are not able to achieve this success? Do not force his daughter his failed dreams, do not make it, for example, to choose a profession that is pleasing to you. You and your daughter - different people with different talents and inclinations.

Because your daughter will not be a doctor, as you wanted it for yourself, and choose the path, for example, эколога/библиотекаря/спортсменки/логистика/программиста or simply astronaut - is its own choice, the desire of her soul, mind and heart. If the profession does your daughter happy and gives her a chance to feel normal life - Rejoice for her and lock her it under lock and key. You have had the opportunity to realize themselves in the beloved profession, did not work - it's your problem, not your daughter.

Your daughter - your child, not a rival

Surprisingly, very often the mother jealous of their daughters. This feeling encourages mothers to find fault (even fictional) in their daughters and their insulting remarks to poison their lives, lower self-esteem and humiliate. If you find yourself such desires - suppressing them at the root, do not let yourself from loving his mother to turn into someone else, jealous, spiteful person

Your child, your daughter is directly dependent on you since its birth and will test your influence throughout his life. Keep this in mind and try to grow your child in an atmosphere of love and concern, not only to be the daughter of his mother, but also the best friend for life.