But for this, say psychologists, it is necessary to know the psycho her lover, ie be aware of how he perceives the world and the events taking place in it. After that one good for another death.
Always win-win and beautiful care in English. That is, you can just get lost sight of her lover and all. If his psycho, your opinion, allows you to make such a move, then the problem is greatly simplified. "Out of sight, out of mind" - about this case. This method does not stretch the separation indefinitely, does not cling to relationships that are hard to break. Besides care in English automatically frees you from such ugly phenomena as scandals and labeling.
Another thing, if your lover is a serious man (besides married). Such vagueness will not tolerate.
But the announcement of the break-up because of your unwillingness to continue to lead a double life, he is likely to accept with understanding. And then you can assign it last meeting, during which say how much he means to you, that you very sorry that all this comes to an end, but in any case you are grateful for such a gift. It is important not to overdo it with compliments, and that kind of feel your mate is not smitten with renewed vigor. Gratitude, humility, peace - here are your helpers.
It is very difficult to give up beautifully with impulsive lover. This will be screaming and gesticulating frantically, even when your hint separation. That it did not come to a larger (physical abuse, for example, such a passionate partner can in a rush to go and hurt feelings on it in order to reason with you), you have to prepare in advance. Think about what arguments can it act on which the strings of his soul can successfully play that he realized that he's not bad, but life circumstances are. In fact, the most prudent - this does not start a relationship with these neurotic types, so you do not curse that tragic day, when you went to intimacy with such a man.
The best way to give up beautifully - heart to heart talk and come to an understanding, and then agree on a farewell interview. Let it be a romantic night full of love and sadness. Let the candles burn and sounds beautiful music. Only your thoughts about the separation should not be moved at the same time, otherwise your lover as a repetition of such "last" meetings will cease to believe in the sincerity of your decision to break relations, and will perceive them as a game.
In any case, we must remember that parting, trying to break free from attachment (especially if the relationship lasted for several years) - the process of agonizing and painful. It is you on a more wise than half (for the simple reason that you - a woman) should all be well thought out and arrange the matter as "not to be excruciatingly painful," and it was beautiful and dignified. To memories warmed the soul, albeit with a touch of sadness and irreplaceable wonderful feeling called 'unfinished novel. "