From practical life, we know that courtesy courtesy strife. Another duty insincere smile repels and unfriendly outstretched hand is not happy. "Cold politeness", "ice politeness", "polite rudeness" - these expressions alive. As well as their reflections, and in real life. True politeness always pleases the soul good and selflessness. It is light and pleasant. It is inherent in decent person organically, because his noble deeds in all situations arise from the high moral principles.
Rules of etiquette in the world are many, and some of them are really formal. A courtesy in Spain - invite guests to stay for breakfast, but even after a second invitation is accepted with gratitude for this token to give it up. And only the third invitation may be indicative of the true intention to communicate with the guest.
Portugal will be recognized as impolite call on personal matters before 11am. In the Netherlands do not see that extra courtesy to shake. In Belgium, a manifestation of politeness considered ostentatious display of good appetite while taking meals. Thus, the idea of some of the attributes of politeness in different people may be different. Basically its role politeness - a stable moral and behavioral category and unconditionally positive feature of human nature. Be polite - it means to respect people, be considerate, always ready to help in simple everyday situations, to find a reasonable compromise in some of life's odds.
The man who in harmony with the rules of good manners, will be a model and in compliance with the norms of speech etiquette. This is where the really politeness is very cheap, just drink the magic words "thank you", "please", "please", "if you please", "excuse me", "I'm sorry", "is not difficult if you", "Do not advise ".
Respectful treatment of strangers and elders only "you" - the norm for a polite man. "You" and he turns to his friend, if you meet with him in a formal setting. Switching to "you" will be valid for only with close relationships and in communicating with younger age.
It should be noted that the polite formula of speech etiquette have different shades depending on each situation, the themes of dialogue. Thus, the official request may be politely expressed by the words "allow" or "let", but always with an explanation of the essence of the request ("allowed to call").
In friendly conversation using certain formulas, verbal turnovers to help mitigate the negative points in the positions of the interlocutors. These are, for example, plain comments like "there was one small problem", "I'm not very well versed in this", "we're a bit of an argument" and others.
Smoothes out the rough edges, categorical, stiffness in the dialogue ability to use interrogative expression instead of statements ("You were in a movie theater" X ", is not it?"). Better use of speed with negatives instead of direct questions ("You have not got to stop?"). Polite person interrogative form soften and demand: not "Bring me a jacket," and "you could not give me a jacket? ".
Polite person or not, can be defined in many actions. We educated man will always prevail habit of thinking about the interests of others. Such a person will never take his elbows general adjacent armrests in the cinema and unceremoniously not obstructing the exhibit at the exhibition from the eyes of others. He did not allow himself to buy a ticket queue or squeeze into the bus, roughly pushing another passenger.
Whatever aspect of communication do not touch, courtesy indicators will be the manifestation of kindness, tact, sensitivity and care towards others.